How to silence your inner prude
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How to silence your inner prude
You want to be a sex goddess. Damn it, you
are a sex goddess. If only your inner prude didn’t keep rearing its ugly little head. Here’s how to silence it once and for all...\r\n
Talking dirty
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talking dirty
Inner prude says: Why would the words\r\n‘throbbing love machine’ leave my mouth?
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Emily Dubberly (author of Friendly\r\nFetish, £9.99, Piatkus) says: “They don’t have to. Find out\r\nbeforehand if there are any words that\r\nturn him off. Then talk softly, lower the\r\ntone of your voice [newsreaders all have\r\ndeep voices, think Moira Stewart... OK,\r\nmaybe don’t think Moira Stewart], start\r\nwith something tame, telling him what\r\nyou’d like to do to every inch of his body.\r\nAnd don’t be afraid to pause, letting his\r\nmind race to what you might say next.”\r\n
Striptease
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striptease
\r\nInner prude says: I’ll get my head stuck\r\nin my dress.
\r\nEmily says: “To avoid embarrassment\r\nwhen performing a striptease, have a glass\r\nof wine (but no more than one – tripping\r\nover the furniture is not a strong look),\r\nthen spend a few minutes ‘getting into\r\ncharacter’. Imagine you really are\r\nperforming a striptease – you can even\r\nmentally give yourself a striptease name\r\n(see
www.strippername.com). Practise\r\nbeforehand, making sure you can easily\r\nget out of what you’re wearing.”\r\n
Role play
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role play
Inner prude says: I wasn’t that good\r\nat GCSE drama... And it never involved\r\npretending to be a ‘very naughty girl’.
\r\nEmily says: “If you feel shy about role\r\nplay, start with something simple,\r\nlike pretending you are work colleagues\r\nseducing each other. That way you don’t\r\nneed to imagine a character that’s too far\r\naway from your normal life, which will\r\nmake it easier to stay in character. If you\r\ndo fi nd yourself giggling, just go with it\r\n– laughter is a great way to bond with\r\nyour partner – and then go back to the\r\nrole play or just get down to good oldfashioned\r\nsex. Role play is about having\r\nfun – not taking yourself too seriously.”\r\n
Sex toys
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sex toys
\r\nInner prude says: I brandish a vibrator,\r\nhe thinks ‘total nymph’.
\r\nEmily says: “For a great beginner’s sex\r\ntoy, check out Fun Factory’s mini-vibes –\r\nthey’re relatively small, so your partner\r\nwon’t obsess that you want a toy that’s\r\nbigger than him. The Layaspot (£43,\r\n
www.fun-factory.com ) is a great vibe to\r\nuse with your partner, too, as its shape\r\nmakes it easy to hold in your palm and\r\npress against yourself during sex without\r\nit getting in the way.” \r\n
