5 new orgasms!

sex,sex tips,couple kissing,couple in bed,orgasm,orgasm advice,womens orgasm couple kissing Chocolate and orgasms. Love them both, right? But although we\'ll seek out different kinds of chocolate, we\'re not so experimental when it comes to our orgasm selection. Find a method that works for you and stick to it, right? Well, you could be missing out on a whole bunch of other ways to reach a happy ending.\r\n

\r\nAccording to Durex, only one in three women always orgasm through sex, so it\'s not a given. Worse still, around 17% rarely or never get their Os. But we think it\'s about time we campaigned for orgasms all round. And the good news is that they are within grasp for every one. In a Danish study of women who found it difficult to orgasm - with 25% never having had a single one - 93% managed to have orgasm after special therapy. But we\'re not suggesting you book a session with a shrink, there\'s a much easier, and more fun, way to discover your orgasm trigger: the tried and tested method, or to put it another way, the suck \'em and see technique.\r\n

\r\nWhether you\'re flying solo or getting down and dirty with your man, here\'s your guide to cranking up your orgasms, tonight!

The hidden extra: G-spot orgasms

sex,sex tips,couple kissing,couple in bed,orgasm,orgasm advice,womens orgasm couple in bed Locating the G spot isn\'t dissimilar to finding an extra layer of chocolates when you thought there was only one in the box (i.e. bonus!). \"It is an area of spongy tissue surrounding the urethra, which can be felt through the front wall of your vagina,\" says Rutgers University sexuality researcher, Dr Beverly Whipple (co-author of The Orgasm Answer Guide).\"The G spot is very difficult for most women to stimulate with their own fingers, and is better located using a dildo or by a partner, palm facing upwards, two fingers pushing against the front wall of the vagina with a \'come here\' motion.\" Unlike your clitoris, the G spot isn’t uber sensitive so it needs to be treated, ahem, with a firm hand.
\r\nDo it yourself: The best way to hit the G-Spot during masturbation is to use a directional vibrator instead of your fingers. We like the G Whizz 7 vibrator (£12, Ann Summers). It\'s waterproof, quiet and perfectly angled to hit the right spot. Try lying flat on your back, firmly grinding the sex toy against the front of your vagina and prepare to reach new, bed-shuddering highs.
\r\nDo it with him: Saddle up into the reverse cowgirl position. \"You need to straddle on top of him, facing his feet rather than his head,\" explains sex therapist Dr Pam Spurr (author of Sizzling Sex). \"Start with your legs bent and your feet in front of you. Once you’re both more comfortable, you can carefully put your feet behind you, with bent knees so you\'re kneeling above him. This allows the head of his penis to rub directly on your G spot.\" All together now, Yee-hah!

Repeat after me: multiple orgasms

sex,sex tips,couple kissing,couple in bed,orgasm,orgasm advice,womens orgasm The key to multiple success is an understanding of how these orgasms work. \"Multiple orgasm is a misleading term,\" says sexologist Dr Betty Dodson (author of Sex For One: The Joy of Selfloving). \"To have an orgasm you need a build-up because they don\'t just come automatically one after another. Many women count each aftershock of pleasure as an orgasm when really it\'s just an autonomic reflex that followed the orgasm she just had.\" One great orgasm can be equally mind-blowing as a series of smaller ones but if it\'s quantity you’re after...
\r\nDo it yourself: Try some bedtime homework: \"Take yourself to orgasm slowly, without rushing to the end,\" says Spurr. \"Start by using your fingers and when you come, don’t stop touching yourself, just lighten the pressure a little. Orgasm is the release of tension, so you need to get yourself going again in order to have another one.\" Take things to the next level by using a vibrator to re-build that tension. Increase the vibration settings to let your orgasms roll on and on.
\r\nDo it with him: Research from the Medical Information Service, in the US, shows that most women can have a series of climaxes if they\'re happy and relaxed with their partner. So get him to try this oral technique: \"After he\'s brought you to orgasm for the first time, he should stay down there,\" Spurr explains. \"Keeping his tongue flat against your clitoris because it will be over-sensitive, he can apply more pressure after five minutes to get you going all over again.\"

Right on target: Clitoral orgasms

sex,sex tips,couple kissing,couple in bed,orgasm,orgasm advice,womens orgasm couple in bed \r\nClitoral stimulation is the gold standard method for bringing most women to climax and with good reason. \"Around 50-75% of orgasmic women need their love button directly stimulated to get their Os,\" says Dr Ian Kerner (author of Passionista: The Empowered Woman\'s Guide to Pleasuring a Man). \"Even women who can have orgasms via penetrative sex, often prefer the impact of the clitoral kind.\" In short, it’s the nerve centre of orgasmsville.
\r\nDo it yourself: Try the Rock \'n\' Roll orgasm, a technique devised by sexologist Dr Betty Dodson. \"This is much stronger than, say, a tension orgasm,\" she explains. \"You rock your pelvis forward and squeeze your vaginal muscles then release and repeat while masturbating.\" Combining muscle tension with muscle relaxation makes for an almost out-of-body orgasm experience.
\r\nDo it with him: The coital alignment technique was tried and tested by sex therapist Edward Eichel. He found that 77% of women could climax this way, compared to 23% other ways. Kerner says, \"Lie down on the bed. Have him get on top, positioning himself so his shoulders are in line with yours.\" He\"s higher up for a reason. \"Having parallel pelvises makes orgasm much more likely because the base of his penis will directly stimulate your clitoris,\" he adds.

Up the ante: Tension orgasms

sex,sex tips,couple kissing,couple in bed,orgasm,orgasm advice,womens orgasm \r\nWe\'re not talking the kind of orgasm you have to let off steam after a bad day at work, this is about muscle tension. Repeat after us: clench, unclench. \"Tension orgasms are about tensing your muscles tight and having a fast, powerful orgasm,\" says sexpert Carlin Ross, co-founder of dodsonandross.com. The best thing about this orgasm is that, like any exercise, it just takes a bit of practice to perfect it.
\r\nDo it yourself: Use a slimline vibrator, like the Jessica Rabbit 2.0 Slimline so you can \'grab\' it using your vaginal muscles. A bigger vibrator makes it more difficult to clench, so use a smaller sex toy to practice squeezing. \"Just like any other muscles, vaginal muscles get stronger the more you work them,\" says Dr Spurr. To get a tension orgasm, squeeze hard and fast and you\'ll come quicker than usual.
\r\n Do it with him: The bathroom at your in-laws, behind some bushes in the park – there are plenty of places to choose from if you want to get yourself a quick-smart tension orgasm with your man. But if exhibitionism isn\'t your thing, you just need to work on those exercises. \"Clenching your vaginal muscles rapidly during sex will work,\" says Ross. \"The rest of your body will tense up at the same time, creating a short-but-sharp tension orgasm.\"\r\n\r\n

Taking it easy: Relaxation orgasm

sex,sex tips,couple kissing,couple in bed,orgasm,orgasm advice,womens orgasm woman in bath \r\nSome things are better when you take time over them. \"The longer women spend building up to an orgasm, the more powerful and longer lasting it is,\" says Dodson. \"During a relaxation orgasm you\'re not moving or tensing any muscles. You lie there like Sleeping Beauty, waiting for the magic to happen.\"
\r\nDo it yourself: \"Breathing and fantasising is key here,\" says Ross. \"You have to create a fantasy that will keep your mind focused on pleasure. Tense your vaginal muscles, then relax them, but do it slowly. \"If you’re using your fingers to stimulate yourself, be gentle. Remember you\'re trying to savour the process, not rush to it.\" In essence, this is like thinking yourself to orgasm.
\r\nDo it with him: Focus on your breathing and muscles, and make sure to let him know what you’re up to - your Sleeping Beauty act might make him worry whether you’re still alive if you don’t let him in on the plan! \"If he focuses on his breathing too, the experience will be much more intimate for both of you,\" says Spurr. \"Usually your breathing gets faster as you approach orgasm. Try slowing it down, focus on relaxing your muscles and gently rock your way to a surprisingly powerful orgasm.” Maximum benefits for minimal effort. Bliss.